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CHAPTER XII.
EXAMPLE—MODELS.
"Ever their phantoms rise before us,
Our loftier brothers, but one in blood;
By bed and table they lord it o'er us,
With looks of beauty and words of good."
—John
Sterling. |
"Children may be strangled, but Deeds never: they have an
indestructible life, both in and out of our consciousness."—George
Eliot.
"There is no action of man in this life, which is not the
beginning of so long chain of consequences, as that no human
providence is high enough to give us a prospect to the end."—Thomas
of Malmesbury.
EXAMPLE is one of
the most potent of instructors, though it teaches without a tongue.
It is the practical school of mankind, working by action, which is
always more forcible than words. Precept may point to us the
way, but it is silent continuous example, conveyed to us by habits,
and living with us in fact, that carries us along. Good advice
has its weight: but without the accompaniment of a good example it
is of comparatively small influence; and it will be found that the
common saying of "Do as I say, not as I do," is usually reversed in
the actual experience of life.
All persons are more or less apt to learn through the eye
rather than the ear; and, whatever is seen in fact, makes a far
deeper impression than anything that is merely read or heard.
This is especially the case in early youth, when the eye is the
chief inlet of knowledge. Whatever children see they
unconsciously imitate. They insensibly come to resemble those
who are about them—as insects take the colour of the leaves they
feed on. Hence the vast importance of domestic training.
For whatever may be the efficiency of schools, the examples set in
our Homes must always be of vastly greater influence in forming the
characters of our future men and women. The Home is the
crystal of society—the nucleus of national character; and from that
source, be it pure or tainted, issue the habits, principles and
maxims, which govern public as well as private life. The
nation comes from the nursery. Public opinion itself is for
the most part the outgrowth of the home; and the best philanthropy
comes from the fireside. "To love the little platoon we belong
to in society," says Burke, "is the germ of all public affections."
From this little central spot, the human sympathies may extend in an
ever widening circle, until the world is embraced; for, though true
philanthropy, like charity, begins at home, assuredly it does not
end there.
Example in conduct, therefore, even in apparently trivial
matters, is of no light moment, inasmuch as it is constantly
becoming inwoven with the lives of others, and contributing to form
their natures for better or for worse. The characters of
parents are thus constantly repeated in their children; and the acts
of affection, discipline, industry, and self-control, which they
daily exemplify, live and act when all else which may have been
learned through the ear has long been forgotten. Hence a wise
man was accustomed to speak of his children as his "future state."
Even the mute action and unconscious look of a parent may give a
stamp to the character which is never effaced; and who can tell how
much evil act has been stayed by the thought of some good parent,
whose memory their children may not sully by the commission of an
unworthy deed, or the indulgence of an impure thought? The
veriest trifles thus become of importance in influencing the
characters of men. "A kiss from my mother," said West, "made
me a painter." It is on the direction of such seeming trifles
when children that the future happiness and success of men mainly
depend. Fowell Buxton, when occupying an eminent and
influential station in life, wrote to his mother, "I constantly
feel, especially in action and exertion for others, the effects of
principles early implanted by you in my mind." Buxton was also
accustomed to remember with gratitude the obligations which he owed
to an illiterate man, a gamekeeper, named Abraham Plastow, with whom
he played, and rode, and sported—a man who could neither read nor
write, but was full of natural good sense and mother-wit.
"What made him particularly valuable," says Buxton, "were his
principles of integrity and honour. He never said or did a
thing in the absence of my mother of which she would have
disapproved. He always held up the highest standard of
integrity, and filled our youthful minds with sentiments as pure and
as generous as could be found in the writings of Seneca or Cicero.
Such was my first instructor, and, I must add, my best."
Lord Langdale, looking back upon the admirable example set
him by his mother, declared, "If the whole world were put into one
scale, and my mother into the other, the world would kick the beam."
Mrs. Schimmel Penninck, in her old age, was accustomed to call to
mind the personal influence exercised by her mother upon the society
amidst which she moved. When she entered a room it had the
effect of immediately raising the tone of the conversation, and as
if purifying the moral atmosphere—all seeming to breathe more
freely, and stand more erectly. "In her presence," says the
daughter, "I became for the time transformed into another person."
So much does the moral health depend upon the moral atmosphere that
is breathed, and so great is the influence daily exercised by
parents over their children by living a life before their eyes, that
perhaps the best system of parental instruction might be summed up
in these two words: "Improve thyself."
There is something solemn and awful in the thought that there
is not an act done or a word uttered by a human being but carries
with it a train of consequences, the end of which we may never
trace. Not one but, to a certain extent, gives a colour to our
life, and insensibly influences the lives of those about us.
The good deed or word will live, even though we may not see it
fructify, but so will the bad; and no person is so insignificant as
to be sure that his example will not do good on the one hand, or
evil on the other. The spirits of men do not die: they still
live and walk abroad among us. It was a fine and a true
thought uttered by Mr. Disraeli in the House of Commons on the death
of Richard Cobden, that "he was one of those men who, though not
present, were still members of that House, who were independent of
dissolutions, of the caprices of constituencies, and even of the
course of time."
There is, indeed, an essence of immortality in the life of
man, even in this world. No individual in the universe stands
alone; he is a component part of a system of mutual dependencies;
and by his several acts he either increases or diminishes the sum of
human good now and for ever. As the present is rooted in the
past, and the lives and examples of our forefathers still to a great
extent influence us, so are we by our daily acts contributing to
form the condition and character of the future. Man is a fruit
formed and ripened by the culture of all the foregoing centuries;
and the living generation continues the magnetic current of action
and example destined to bind the remotest past with the most distant
future. No man's acts die utterly; and though his body may
resolve into dust and air, his good or his bad deeds will still be
bringing forth fruit after their kind, and influencing future
generations for all time to come. It is in this momentous and
solemn fact that the great peril and responsibility of human
existence lies.
CHARLES
BABBAGE (1791-1871):
English mathematician, philosopher, inventor and mechanical
engineer:
originator of the concept of a 'programmable' computer.
Picture: Illustrated London News (1871).
Mr. Babbage has so powerfully expressed this idea in a noble
passage in one of his writings that we here venture to quote his
words: "Every atom," he says,
"impressed with good or ill, retains at once the
motions which philosophers, and sages have imparted to it, mixed and
combined in ten thousand ways with all that is worthless and base;
the air itself is one vast library, on whose pages are written for
ever all that man has ever said or whispered. There, in their
immutable but unerring characters, mixed with the earliest as well
as the latest sighs of mortality, stand for ever recorded vows
unredeemed, promises unfulfilled; perpetuating, in the united
movements of each particle, the testimony of man's changeful will.
But, if the air we breathe is the never-failing historian of the
sentiments we have uttered, earth, air, and ocean, are, in like
manner, the eternal witnesses of the acts we have done; the same
principle of the equality of action and reaction applies to them.
No motion impressed by natural causes, or by human agency, is ever
obliterated. . . . If the Almighty stamped on the brow of the first
murderer the indelible and visible mark of his guilt, He has also
established laws by which every succeeding criminal is not less
irrevocably chained to the testimony of his crime; for every atom of
his mortal frame, through whatever changes its severed particles may
migrate, will still retain adhering to it, through every
combination, some movement derived from that very muscular effort by
which the crime itself was perpetrated."
Thus, every act we do or word we utter, as well as every act
we witness or word we hear, carries with it an influence which
extends over, and gives a colour, not only to the whole of our
future life, but makes itself felt upon the whole frame of society.
We may not, and indeed cannot, possibly, trace the influence working
itself into action in its various ramifications amongst our
children, our friends, or associates, yet there it is assuredly,
working on for ever. And herein lies the great significance of
setting forth a good example,— a silent teaching which even the
poorest and least significant person can practise in his daily life.
There is no one so humble, but that he owes to others this simple
but priceless instruction. Even the meanest condition may thus
be made useful; for the light set in a low place shines as
faithfully as that set upon a hill. Everywhere, and under
almost all circumstances, however externally adverse—in moorland
shielings, in cottage hamlets, in the close alleys of great
towns—the true man may grow. He who tills a space of earth
scarce bigger than is needed for his grave, may work as faithfully,
and to as good purpose, as the heir to thousands. The
commonest workshop may thus be a school of industry, science, and
good morals, on the one hand; or of idleness, folly, and depravity,
on the other. It all depends on the individual men, and the
use they make of the opportunities for good which offer themselves.
A life well spent, a character uprightly sustained, is no
slight legacy to leave to one's children, and to the world: for it
is the most eloquent lesson of virtue and the severest reproof of
vice, while it continues an enduring source of the best kind of
riches. Well for those who can say, as Pope did, in rejoinder
to the sarcasm of Lord Hervey, "I think it enough that my parents,
such as they were, never cost me a blush, and that their son, such
as he is, never cost them a tear."
It is not enough to tell others what they are to do,
but to exhibit the actual example of doing. What Mrs. Chisholm
described to Mrs. Stowe as the secret of her success, applies to all
life. "I found," she said, "that if we want anything done,
we must go to work and do: it is of no use merely to
talk—none whatever." It is poor eloquence that only shows how
a person can talk. Had Mrs. Chisholm rested satisfied with
lecturing, her project, she was persuaded, would never have got
beyond the region of talk; but when people saw what she was doing
and had actually accomplished, they fell in with her views and came
forward to help her. Hence the most beneficent worker is not
he who says the most eloquent things, or even who thinks the most
loftily, but he who does the most eloquent acts.
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DR.
THOMAS GUTHRIE
(1803-73):
Scottish preacher and philanthropist;
a founder of the ragged schools.
Picture (Hill & Adamson): Wikipedia. |
True-hearted persons, even in the humblest station in life, who are
energetic doers, may thus give an impulse to good works out of all
proportion, apparently, to their actual station in society.
Thomas Wright might have talked about the reclamation of criminals,
and John Pounds about the necessity for Ragged Schools, and yet done
nothing; instead of which they simply set to work without any other
idea in their minds than that of doing, not talking. And how
the example of even the poorest man may tell upon society, hear what
Dr. Guthrie, the apostle of the Ragged School movement, says of the
influence which the example of John Pounds, the humble Portsmouth
cobbler, exercised upon his own working career:—
"The interest I have been led to
take in this cause is an example of how, in Providence, a man's
destiny—his course of life, like that of a river—may be determined
and affected by very trivial circumstances. It is rather
curious—at least it is interesting to me to remember—that it was by
a picture I was first led to take an interest in ragged schools—by a
picture in an old, obscure, decaying burgh that stands on the shores
of the Frith of Forth, the birthplace of Thomas Chalmers. I
went to see this place many years ago; and, going into an inn for
refreshment, I found the room covered with pictures of shepherdesses
with their crooks, and sailors in holiday attire, not particularly
interesting. But above the chimney-piece there was a large
print, more respectable than its neighbours, which represented a
cobbler's room. The cobbler was there himself, spectacles on
nose, an old shoe between his knees—the massive forehead and firm
mouth indicating great determination of character, and, beneath his
bushy eyebrows, benevolence gleamed out on a number of poor ragged
boys and girls who stood at their lessons round the busy cobbler.
My curiosity was awakened; and in the inscription I read how this
man, John Pounds, a cobbler in Portsmouth, taking pity on the
multitude of poor ragged children left by ministers and magistrates,
and ladies and gentlemen, to go to ruin on the streets—how, like a
good shepherd, he gathered in these wretched outcasts—how he had
trained them to God and to the world—and how, while earning his
daily bread by the sweat of his brow, he had rescued from misery and
saved to society not less than five hundred of these children.
I felt ashamed of myself. I felt reproved for the little I had
done. My feelings were touched. I was astonished at this
man's achievements; and I well remember, in the enthusiasm of the
moment, saying to my companion (and I have seen in my cooler and
calmer moments no reason for unsaying the saying)—'That man is an
honour to humanity, and deserves the tallest monument ever raised
within the shores of Britain.' I took up that man's history,
and I found it animated by the spirit of Him who 'had compassion on
the multitude.' John Pounds was a clever man besides; and,
like Paul, if he could not win a poor boy any other way, he won him
by art. He would be seen chasing a ragged boy along the quays,
and compelling him to come to school, not by the power of a
policeman, but by the power of a hot potato. He knew the love
an Irishman had for a potato; and John Pounds might be seen running
holding under the boy's nose a potato, like an Irishman, very hot,
and with a coat as ragged as himself. When the day comes when
honour will be done to whom honour is due, I can fancy the crowd of
those whose fame poets have sung, and to whose memory monuments have
been raised, dividing like the wave, and, passing the great, and the
noble, and the mighty of the land, this poor, obscure old man
stepping forward and receiving the especial notice of Him who said
'Inasmuch as ye did it to one of the least of these, ye did it also
to Me.'"
The education of character is very much a question of models;
we mould ourselves so unconsciously after the characters, manners,
habits, and opinions of those who are about us. Good rules may
do much, but good models far more; for in the latter we have
instruction in action—wisdom at work. Good admonition and bad
example only build with one hand to pull down with the other.
Hence the vast importance of exercising great care in the selection
of companions, especially in youth. There is a magnetic
affinity in young persons which insensibly tends to assimilate them
to each other's likeness. Mr. Edgeworth was so strongly
convinced that from sympathy they involuntarily imitated or caught
the tone of the company they frequented, that he held it to be of
the most essential importance that they should be taught to select
the very best models. "No company, or good company," was his
motto. Lord Collingwood, writing to a young friend, said,
"Hold it as a maxim that you had better be alone than in mean
company. Let your companions be such as yourself, or superior;
for the worth of a man will always be ruled by that of his company."
It was a remark of the famous Dr. Sydenham that everybody some time
or other would be the better or the worse for having but spoken to a
good or a bad man. As Sir Peter Lely made it a rule never to
look at a bad picture if he could help it, believing that whenever
he did so his pencil caught a taint from it, so, whoever chooses to
gaze often upon a debased specimen of humanity and to frequent his
society, cannot help gradually assimilating himself to that sort of
model.
It is therefore advisable for young men to seek the
fellowship of the good, and always to aim at a higher standard than
themselves. Francis Horner, speaking of the advantages to
himself of direct personal intercourse with high-minded, intelligent
men, said, "I cannot hesitate to decide that I have derived more
intellectual improvement from them than from all the books I have
turned over." Lord Shelburne (afterwards Marquis of
Lansdowne), when a young man, paid a visit to the venerable
Malesherbes, and was so much impressed by it, that he said,—"I have
travelled much, but I have never been so influenced by personal
contact with any man; and if I ever accomplish any good in the
course of my life, I am certain that the recollection of M. de
Malesherbes will animate my soul." So Fowell Buxton was always
ready to acknowledge the powerful influence exercised upon the
formation of his character in early life by the example of the
Gurney family: "It has given a colour to my life," he used to say.
Speaking of his success at the Dublin University, he confessed, "I
can ascribe it to nothing but my Earlham visits." It was from
the Gurneys he "caught the infection" of self-improvement.
Contact with the good never fails to impart good, and we
carry away with us some of the blessing, as travellers' garments
retain the odour of the flowers and shrubs through which they have
passed. Those who knew the late John Sterling intimately, have
spoken of the beneficial influence which he exercised on all with
whom he came into personal contact. Many owed to him their
first awakening to a higher being; from him they learnt what they
were, and what they ought to be. Mr. Trench says of him:—"It
was impossible to come in contact with his noble nature without
feeling one's self in some measure ennobled and lifted up,
as I ever felt when I left him, into a higher region of objects and
aims than that in which one is tempted habitually to dwell."
It is thus that the noble character always acts; we become
insensibly elevated by him, and cannot help feeling as he does and
acquiring the habit of looking at things in the same light.
Such is the magical action and reaction of minds upon each other.
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LUIGI
CHERUBINI
(1760-1842):
Italian composer, mostly of opera and sacred
music. Much admired by Beethoven.
Picture: Wikipedia. |
Artists, also, feel themselves elevated by contact with artists
greater than themselves. Thus Haydn's genius was first fired
by Handel. Hearing him play, Haydn's ardour for musical
composition was at once excited, and but for this circumstance, he
himself believed that he would never have written the 'Creation.'
Speaking of Handel, he said, "When he chooses, he strikes like the
thunderbolt;" and at another time, "There is not a note of him but
draws blood." Scarlatti was another of Handel's ardent
admirers, following him all over Italy; afterwards, when speaking of
the great master, he would cross himself in token of admiration.
True artists never fail generously to recognise each other's
greatness. Thus Beethoven's admiration for Cherubini was
regal: and he ardently hailed the genius of Schubert: "Truly," said
he, "in Schubert dwells a divine fire." When Northcote was a
mere youth he had such an admiration for Reynolds that, when the
great painter was once attending a public meeting down in
Devonshire, the boy pushed through the crowd, and got so near
Reynolds as to touch the skirt of his coat, "which I did," says
Northcote, "with great satisfaction to my mind,"—a true touch of
youthful enthusiasm in its admiration of genius.
The example of the brave is an inspiration to the timid,
their presence thrilling through every fibre. Hence the
miracles of valour so often performed by ordinary men under the
leadership of the heroic. The very recollection of the deeds
of the valiant stirs men's blood like the sound of a trumpet.
Ziska bequeathed his skin to be used as a drum to inspire the valour
of the Bohemians. When Scanderbeg, prince of Epirus, was dead,
the Turks wished to possess his bones, that each might wear a piece
next his heart, hoping thus to secure some portion of the courage he
had displayed while living, and which they had so often experienced
in battle. When the gallant Douglas, bearing the heart of
Bruce to the Holy Land, saw one of his knights surrounded and sorely
pressed by the Saracens, he took from his neck the silver case
containing the hero's bequest, and throwing it amidst the thickest
press of his foes, cried, "Pass first in fight, as thou wert wont to
do, and Douglas will follow thee, or die;" and so saying, he rushed
forward to the place where it fell, and was there slain.
The chief use of biography consists in the noble models of
character in which it abounds. Our great forefathers still
live among us in the records of their lives, as well as in the acts
they have done, which live also; still sit by us at table, and hold
us by the hand; furnishing examples for our benefit, which we may
still study, admire and imitate. Indeed, whoever has left
behind him the record of a noble life, has bequeathed to posterity
an enduring source of good, for it serves as a model for others to
form themselves by in all time to come; still breathing fresh life
into men, helping them to reproduce his life anew, and to illustrate
his character in other forms. Hence a book containing the life
of a true man is full of precious seed. It is a still living
voice: it is an intellect. To use Milton's words, "it is the
precious lifeblood of a master spirit, embalmed and treasured up on
purpose to a life beyond life." Such a book never ceases to
exercise an elevating and ennobling influence. But, above all,
there is the Book containing the very highest Example set before us
to shape our lives by in this world—the most suitable for all the
necessities of our mind and heart—an example which we can only
follow afar off and feel after,
"Like plants or vines which never saw the
sun,
But dream of him and guess where he may be,
And do their best to climb and get to him." |
Again, no young man can rise from the perusal of such lives
as those of Buxton and Arnold, without feeling his mind and heart
made better, and his best resolves invigorated. Such
biographies increase a man's self-reliance by demonstrating what men
can be, and what they can do; fortifying his hopes and elevating his
aims in life. Sometimes a young man discovers himself in a
biography, as Correggio felt within him the risings of genius on
contemplating the works of Michael Angelo: "And I too, am a
painter," he exclaimed. Sir Samuel Romilly, in his
autobiography, confessed himself to have been powerfully influenced
by the life of the great and noble-minded French Chancellor
Daguesseau:—"The works of Thomas," says he, "had fallen into my
hands, and I had read with admiration his 'Eloge of Daguesseau;' and
the career of honour which he represented that illustrious
magistrate to have run, excited to a great degree my ardour and
ambition, and opened to my imagination new paths of glory."
Franklin was accustomed to attribute his usefulness and
eminence to his having early read Cotton Mather's 'Essays to do
Good'—a book which grew out of Mather's own life. And see how
good example draws other men after it, and propagates itself through
future generations in all lands. For Samuel Drew avers that he
framed his own life, and especially his business habits, after the
model left on record by Benjamin Franklin. Thus it is
impossible to say where a good example may not reach, or where it
will end, if indeed it have an end. Hence the advantage, in
literature as in life, of keeping the best society, reading the best
books, and wisely admiring and imitating the best things we find in
them. "In literature," said Lord Dudley, "I am fond of
confining myself to the best company, which consists chiefly of my
old acquaintance, with whom I am desirous of becoming more intimate;
and I suspect that nine times out of ten it is more profitable, if
not more agreeable, to read an old book over again, than to read a
new one for the first time."
Sometimes a book containing a noble exemplar of life, taken
up at random, merely with the object of reading it as a pastime, has
been known to call forth energies whose existence had not before
been suspected. Alfieri was first drawn with passion to
literature by reading 'Plutarch's Lives.' Loyola, when a
soldier serving at the siege of Pampeluna, and laid up by a
dangerous wound in his leg, asked for a book to divert his thoughts:
the 'Lives of the Saints' was brought to him, and its perusal so
inflamed his mind, that he determined thenceforth to devote himself
to the founding of a religious order. Luther, in like manner,
was inspired to undertake the great labours of his life by a perusal
of the 'Life and Writings of John Huss.' Dr. Wolff was
stimulated to enter upon his missionary career by reading the 'Life
of Francis Xavier;' and the book fired his youthful bosom with a
passion the most sincere and ardent to devote himself to the
enterprise of his life. William Carey, also, got the first
idea of entering upon his sublime labours as a missionary from a
perusal of the Voyages of Captain Cook.
Francis Horner was accustomed to note in his diary and
letters the books by which he was most improved and influenced.
Amongst these were Condorcet's 'Eloge of Haller,' Sir Joshua
Reynolds' 'Discourses,' the writings of Bacon, and 'Burnet's Account
of Sir Matthew Hale.' The perusal of the last-mentioned
book—the portrait of a prodigy of labour—Horner says, filled him
with enthusiasm. Of Condorcet's 'Eloge of Haller,' he said: "I
never rise from the account of such men without a sort of thrilling
palpitation about me, which I know not whether I should call
admiration, ambition, or despair." And speaking of the
'Discourses' of Sir Joshua Reynolds, he said: "Next to the writings
of Bacon, there is no book which has more powerfully impelled me to
self-culture. He is one of the first men of genius who has
condescended to inform the world of the steps by which greatness is
attained. The confidence with which he asserts the omnipotence
of human labour has the effect of familiarising his reader with the
idea that genius is an acquisition rather than a gift; whilst with
all there is blended so naturally and eloquently the most elevated
and passionate admiration of excellence, that upon the whole there
is no book of a more inflammatory effect." It is
remarkable that Reynolds himself attributed his first passionate
impulse towards the study of art, to reading Richardson's account of
a great painter; and Haydon was in like manner afterwards inflamed
to follow the same pursuit by reading of the career of Reynolds.
Thus the brave and aspiring life of one man lights a flame in the
minds of others of like faculties and impulse; and where there is
equally vigorous effort, like distinction and success will almost
surely follow. Thus the chain of example is carried down
through time in an endless succession of links,—admiration exciting
imitation, and perpetuating the true aristocracy of genius.
One of the most valuable, and one of the most infectious
examples which can be set before the young, is that of cheerful
working. Cheerfulness gives elasticity to the spirit.
Spectres fly before it; difficulties cause no despair, for they are
encountered with hope, and the mind acquires that happy disposition
to improve opportunities which rarely fails of success. The
fervent spirit is always a healthy and happy spirit; working
cheerfully itself, and stimulating others to work. It confers
a dignity on even the most ordinary occupations. The most
effective work, also, is usually the full-hearted work—that which
passes through the hands or the head of him whose heart is glad.
Hume was accustomed to say that he would rather possess a cheerful
disposition—inclined always to look at the bright side of
things—than with a gloomy mind to be the master of an estate of ten
thousand a year. Granville Sharp, amidst his indefatigable
labours on behalf of the slave, solaced himself in the evenings by
taking part in glees and instrumental concerts at his brother's
house, singing, or playing on the flute, the clarinet, or the oboe;
and, at the Sunday evening oratorios, when Handel was played, he
beat the kettle-drums. He also indulged, though sparingly, in
caricature drawing. Fowell Buxton also was an eminently
cheerful man; taking special pleasure in field sports, in riding
about the country with his children, and in mixing in all their
domestic amusements.
In another sphere of action, Dr. Arnold was a noble and a
cheerful worker, throwing himself into the great business of his
life, the training and teaching of young men, with his whole heart
and soul. It is stated in his admirable biography, that "the
most remarkable thing in the Laleham circle was the wonderful
healthiness of tone which prevailed there. It was a place
where a new comer at once felt that a great and earnest work was
going forward. Every pupil was made to feel that there was a
work for him to do; that his happiness, as well as his duty, lay in
doing that work well. Hence an indescribable zest was
communicated to a young man's feeling about life; a strange joy came
over him on discerning that he had the means of being useful, and
thus of being happy; and a deep respect and ardent attachment sprang
up towards him who had taught him thus to value life and his own
self, and his work and mission in the world. All this was
founded on the breadth and comprehensiveness of Arnold's character,
as well as its striking truth and reality; on the unfeigned regard
he had for work of all kinds, and the sense he had of its value,
both for the complex aggregate of society and the growth and
protection of the individual. In all this there was no
excitement; no predilection for one class of work above another; no
enthusiasm for any one-sided object; but a humble, profound, and
most religious consciousness that work is the appointed calling of
man on earth; the end for which his various faculties were given;
the element in which his nature is ordained to develop itself, and
in which his progressive advance towards heaven is to lie."
Among the many valuable men trained for public life and usefulness
by Arnold, was the gallant Hodson, of Hodson's Horse, who, writing
home from India, many years after, thus spoke of his revered master:
"The influence he produced has been most lasting and striking in its
effects. It is felt even in India; I cannot say more than
that."
The useful influence which a right-hearted man of energy and
industry may exercise amongst his neighbours and dependants, and
accomplish for his country, cannot, perhaps, be better illustrated
than by the career of Sir John Sinclair; characterized by the Abbé
Gregoire as "the most indefatigable man in Europe." He was
originally a country laird, born to a considerable estate situated
near John o' Groat's House, almost beyond the beat of civilization,
in a bare wild country fronting the stormy North Sea. His father
dying while he was a youth of sixteen, the management of the family
property thus early devolved upon him; and at eighteen he began a
course of vigorous improvement in the county of Caithness, which
eventually spread all over Scotland. Agriculture then was in a most
backward state; the fields were unenclosed, the lands undrained; the
small farmers of Caithness were so poor that they could scarcely
afford to keep a horse or shelty; the hard work was chiefly done,
and the burdens borne, by the women; and if a cottier lost a horse
it was not unusual for him to marry a wife as the cheapest
substitute. The country was without roads or bridges; and drovers
driving their cattle south had to swim the rivers along with their
beasts. The chief track leading into Caithness lay along a high
shelf on a mountain side, the road being some hundred feet of clear
perpendicular height above the sea which dashed below. Sir John,
though a mere youth, determined to make a new road over the hill of
Ben Cheilt, the old let-alone proprietors, however, regarding his
scheme with incredulity and derision. But he himself laid out the
road, assembled some twelve hundred workmen early one summer's
morning, set them simultaneously to work, superintending their
labours, and stimulating them by his presence and example; and
before night, what had been a dangerous sheep track, six miles in
length, hardly passable for led horses, was made practicable for
wheel-carriages as if by the power of magic. It was an admirable
example of energy and well-directed labour, which could not fail to
have a most salutary influence upon the surrounding population. He
then proceeded to make more roads, to erect mills, to build bridges,
and to enclose and cultivate the waste lands. He introduced improved
methods of culture, and regular rotation of crops, distributing
small premiums to encourage industry; and he thus soon quickened the
whole frame of society within reach of his influence, and infused an
entirely new spirit into the cultivators of the soil. From being one
of the most inaccessible districts of the north—the very ultima
Thule of civilization—Caithness became a pattern county for its
roads, its agriculture, and its fisheries. In Sinclair's youth, the
post was carried by a runner only once a week, and the young baronet
then declared that he would never rest till a coach drove daily to
Thurso. The people of the neighbourhood could not believe in any
such thing, and it became a proverb in the county to say of any
utterly impossible scheme, "On, ay, that will come to pass when Sit
John sees the daily mail at Thurso!" But Sir John lived to see his
dream realized, and the daily mail established to Thurso.
The circle of his benevolent operations gradually widened. Observing
the serious deterioration which had taken place in the quality of
British wool,—one of the staple commodities of the country,—he
forthwith, though but a private and little-known country gentleman,
devoted himself to its improvement. By his personal exertions he
established the British Wool Society for the purpose, and himself
led the way to practical improvement by importing 800 sheep from all
countries, at his own expense. The result was, the introduction into
Scotland of the celebrated Cheviot breed. Sheep farmers scouted the
idea of south country flocks being able to thrive in the far north.
But Sir John persevered; and in a few years there were not fewer
than 300,000 Cheviots diffused over the four northern counties
alone. The value of all grazing land was thus enormously increased;
and Scotch estates, which before were comparatively worthless, began
to yield large rentals.
SIR JOHN
SINCLAIR
(1754-1835):
Scottish politician, writer on finance and agriculture.
Picture: Wikipedia.
Returned by Caithness to Parliament, in which he remained for thirty
years, rarely missing a division, his position gave him farther
opportunities of usefulness, which he did not neglect to employ. Mr.
Pitt, observing his persevering energy in all useful public
projects, sent for him to Downing Street, and voluntarily proposed
his assistance in any object he might have in view. Another man
might have thought of himself and his own promotion; but Sir John
characteristically replied, that he desired no favour for himself,
but intimated that the reward most gratifying to his feelings would
be Mr. Pitt's assistance in the establishment of a National Board of
Agriculture. Arthur Young laid a bet with the baronet that his
scheme would never be established, adding; "Your Board of
Agriculture will be in the moon!" But vigorously setting to work, he
roused public attention to the subject, enlisted a majority of
Parliament on his side, and eventually established the Board, of
which he was appointed President. The result of its action need not
be described, but the stimulus which it gave to agriculture and
stock-raising was shortly felt throughout the whole United Kingdom,
and tens of thousands of acres were redeemed from barrenness by its
operation. He was equally indefatigable in encouraging the
establishment of fisheries; and the successful founding of these
great branches of British industry at Thurso and Wick was mainly due
to his exertions. He urged for long years, and at length succeeded
in obtaining the enclosure of a harbour for the latter place, which
is perhaps the greatest and most prosperous fishing town in the
world.
Sir John threw his personal energy into every work in which he
engaged, rousing the inert, stimulating the idle, encouraging the
hopeful, and working with all. When a French invasion was
threatened, he offered to Mr. Pitt to raise a regiment on his own
estate, and he was as good as his word. He went down to the north,
and raised a battalion of 600 men, afterwards increased to 1,000; and
it was admitted to be one of the finest volunteer regiments ever
raised, inspired throughout by his own noble and patriotic spirit. While commanding officer of the camp at Aberdeen he held the offices
of a Director of the Bank of Scotland, Chairman of the British Wool
Society, Provost of Wick, Director of the British Fishery Society,
Commissioner for issuing Exchequer Bills, Member of Parliament for
Caithness, and President of the Board of Agriculture. Amidst all
this multifarious and self-imposed work, he even found time to write
books, enough of themselves to establish a reputation. When Mr.
Rush, the American Ambassador, arrived in England, he relates that
he inquired of Mr. Coke of Holkham, what was the best work on
Agriculture, and was referred to Sir John Sinclair's; and when he
further asked of Mr. Vansittart, Chancellor of the Exchequer, what
was the best work on British Finance, he was again referred to a
work by Sir John Sinclair, his 'History of the Public Revenue.' But
the great monument of his indefatigable industry, a work that would
have appalled other men, but only served to rouse and sustain his
energy, was his 'Statistical Account of Scotland,' in twenty-one
volumes, one of the most valuable practical works ever published in
any age or country. Amid a host of other pursuits it occupied him
nearly eight years of hard labour, during which he received, and
attended to, upwards of 20,000 letters on the subject. It was a
thoroughly patriotic undertaking, from which he derived no personal
advantage whatever, beyond the honour of having completed it. The
whole of the profits were assigned by him to the Society for the
Sons of the Clergy in Scotland. The publication of the book led to
great public improvements; it was followed by the immediate
abolition of several oppressive feudal rights, to which it called
attention; the salaries of schoolmasters and clergyman in many
parishes were increased; and an increased stimulus was given to
agriculture throughout Scotland. Sir John then publicly offered to
undertake the much greater labour of collecting and publishing a
similar Statistical Account of England; but unhappily the then
Archbishop of Canterbury refused to sanction it, lest it should
interfere with the tithes of the clergy, and the idea was abandoned.
A remarkable illustration of his energetic promptitude was the
manner in which he once provided, on a great emergency, for the
relief of the manufacturing districts. In 1793 the stagnation
produced by the war led to an unusual number of bankruptcies, and
many of the first houses in Manchester and Glasgow were tottering,
not so much from want of property, but because the usual sources of
trade and credit were for the time closed up. A period of intense
distress amongst the labouring classes seemed imminent, when Sir
John urged, in Parliament, that Exchequer notes to the amount of
five millions should be issued immediately as a loan to such
merchants as could give security. This suggestion was adopted, and
his offer to carry out his plan, in conjunction with certain members
named by him, was also accepted. The vote was passed late at night,
and early next morning Sir John, anticipating the delays of officialism and red tape, proceeded to bankers in the city, and
borrowed of them, on his own personal security, the sum of £70,000,
which he despatched the same evening to those merchants who were in
the most urgent need of assistance. Pitt meeting Sir John in the
House, expressed his great regret that the pressing wants of
Manchester and Glasgow could not be supplied so soon as was
desirable, adding, "The money cannot be raised for some days." "It
is already gone! it left London by to-night's mail!" was Sir John's
triumphant reply; and in afterwards relating the anecdote he added,
with a smile of pleasure, "Pitt was as much startled as if I had
stabbed him." To the last this great, good man worked on usefully
and cheerfully, setting a great example for his family and for his
country. In so laboriously seeking others' good, it might be said
that he found his own—not wealth, for his generosity seriously
impaired his private fortune, but happiness, and self-satisfaction,
and the peace that passes knowledge. A great patriot, with
magnificent powers of work, he nobly did his duty to his country;
yet he was not neglectful of his own household and home. His sons
and daughters grew up to honour and usefulness; and it was one of
the proudest things Sir John could say, when verging on his
eightieth year, that he had lived to see seven sons grown up, not
one of whom had incurred a debt he could not pay, or caused him a
sorrow that could have been avoided.
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CHAPTER XIII.
CHARACTER—THE TRUE GENTLEMAN.
"For who can always act? but he,
To whom a thousand memories call,
Not being less but more than all
The gentleness he seemed to be,
But seemed the thing he was, and join'd
Each office of the social hour
To noble manners, as the flower
And native growth of noble mind;
And thus he bore without abuse
The grand old name of Gentleman.'–Tennyson. |
"Es billet ein Talent sich in der Stille,
Sich ein Charakter in dem Strom der Welt."—Goethe. |
"That which raises a country, that
which strengthens a country, and that which dignifies a
country,—that which spreads her power, creates her moral influence,
and makes her respected and submitted to, bends the heart of
millions, and bows down the pride of nations to her—the instrument
of obedience, the fountain of supremacy, the true throne, crown, and
sceptre of a nation;—this aristocracy is not an aristocracy of
blood, not an aristocracy of fashion, not an aristocracy of talent
only; it is an aristocracy of Character. That is the true
heraldry of man."—The Times.
THE crown and
glory of life is Character. It is the noblest possession of a
man, constituting a rank in itself, and an estate in the general
goodwill; dignifying every station, and exalting every position in
society. It exercises a greater power than wealth, and secures
all the honour without the jealousies of fame. It carries with
it an influence which always tells; for it is the result of proved
honour, rectitude, and consistency—qualities which, perhaps more
than any other, command the general confidence and respect of
mankind.
Character is human nature in its best form. It is moral
order embodied in the individual. Men of character are not
only the conscience of society, but in every well-governed State
they are its best motive power; for it is moral qualities in the
main which rule the world. Even in war, Napoleon said the
moral is to the physical as ten to one. The strength, the
industry, and the civilisation of nations—all depend upon individual
character; and the very foundations of civil security rest upon it.
Laws and institutions are but its outgrowth. In the just
balance of nature, individuals, nations, and races, will obtain just
so much as they deserve, and no more. And as effect finds its
cause, so surely does quality of character amongst a people produce
its befitting results.
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FRANCIS
HORNER
(1778-1817):
Scottish M.P.
Picture: Wikipedia. |
Though a man have comparatively little culture, slender abilities,
and but small wealth, yet, if his character be of sterling worth, he
will always command an influence, whether it be in the workshop, the
counting-house, the mart, or the senate. Canning wisely wrote
in 1801, "My road must be through Character to power; I will try no
other course; and I am sanguine enough to believe that this course,
though not perhaps the quickest, is the surest." You may
admire men of intellect; but something more is necessary before you
will trust them. Hence Lord John Russell once observed in a
sentence full of truth, "It is the nature of party in England to ask
the assistance of men of genius, but to follow the guidance of men
of character." This was strikingly illustrated in the career
of the late Francis Horner—a man of whom Sydney Smith said that the
Ten Commandments were stamped upon his countenance. "The
valuable and peculiar light," says Lord Cockburn, "in which his
history is calculated to inspire every right-minded youth, is this.
He died at the age of thirty-eight: possessed of greater public
influence than any other private man; and admired, beloved, trusted,
and deplored by all, except the heartless or the base. No
greater homage was ever paid in Parliament to any deceased member.
Now let every young man ask—how was this attained? By rank?
He was the son of an Edinburgh merchant. By wealth? Neither
he, nor any of his relations, ever had a superfluous sixpence.
By office? He held but one, and only for a few years, of no
influence, and with very little pay. By talents? His
were not splendid, and he had no genius. Cautious and slow,
his only ambition was to be right. By eloquence? He
spoke in calm, good taste, without any of the oratory that either
terrifies or seduces. By any fascination of manner? His
was only correct and agreeable. By what, then, was it?
Merely by sense, industry, good principles, and a good
heart—qualities which no well-constituted mind need ever despair of
attaining. It was the force of his character that raised him;
and this character not impressed upon him by nature, but formed, out
of no peculiarly fine elements, by himself. There were many in
the House of Commons of far greater ability and eloquence. But
no one surpassed him in the combination of an adequate portion of
these with moral worth. Horner was born to show what moderate
powers, unaided by anything whatever except culture and goodness,
may achieve, even when these powers are displayed amidst the
competition and jealousy of public life."
Franklin, also, attributed his success as a public man, not
to his talents or his powers of speaking—for these were but
moderate—but to his known integrity of character. Hence it
was, he says, "that I had so much weight with my fellow citizens.
I was but a bad speaker, never eloquent, subject to much hesitation
in my choice of words, hardly correct in language, and yet I
generally carried my point." Character creates confidence in
men in high station as well as in humble life. It was said of
the first Emperor Alexander of Russia, that his personal character
was equivalent to a constitution. During the wars of the
Fronde, Montaigne was the only man amongst the French gentry who
kept his castle gates unbarred; and it was said of him, that his
personal character was a better protection for him than a regiment
of horse would have been.
That character is power, is true in a much higher sense than
that knowledge is power. Mind without heart, intelligence
without conduct, cleverness without goodness, are powers in their
way, but they may be powers only for mischief. We may be
instructed or amused by them; but it is sometimes as difficult to
admire them as it would be to admire the dexterity of a pickpocket
or the horsemanship of a highwayman.
Truthfulness, integrity, and goodness—qualities that hang not
on any man's breath—form the essence of manly character, or, as one
of our old writers has it, "that inbred loyalty unto Virtue which
can serve her without a livery." He who possesses these
qualities, united with strength of purpose, carries with him a power
which is irresistible. He is strong to do good, strong to
resist evil, and strong to bear up under difficulty and misfortune.
When Stephen of Colonna fell into the hands of his base assailants,
and they asked him in derision, "Where is now your fortress?"
"Here," was his bold reply, placing his hand upon his heart.
It is in misfortune that the character of the upright man shines
forth with the greatest lustre; and when all else fails, he takes
stand upon his integrity and his courage.
The rules of conduct followed by Lord Erskine—a man of
sterling independence of principle and scrupulous adherence to
truth—are worthy of being engraven on every young man's heart.
"It was a first command and counsel of my earliest youth," he said,
always to do what my conscience told me to be a duty, and to leave
the consequence to God. I shall carry with me the memory, and
I trust the practice, of this parental lesson to the grave. I
have hitherto followed it, and I have no reason to complain that my
obedience to it has been a temporal sacrifice. I have found
it, on the contrary, the road to prosperity and wealth, and I shall
point out the same path to my children for their pursuit,"
Every man is bound to aim at the possession of a good
character as one of the highest objects of life. The very
effort to secure it by worthy means will furnish him with a motive
for exertion; and his idea of manhood, in proportion as it is
elevated, will steady and animate his motive. It is well to
have a high standard of life, even though we may not be able
altogether to realize it. "The youth," says Mr. Disraeli, "who
does not look up will look down; and the spirit that does not soar
is destined perhaps to grovel." George Herbert wisely writes,
"Pitch thy behaviour low, thy projects
high,
So shall thou humble and magnanimous be.
Sink not in spirit; who aimeth at the sky
Shoots higher much than he that means a tree." |
He who has a high standard of living and thinking will certainly do
better than he who has none at all. "Pluck at a gown of gold,"
says the Scotch proverb, "and you may get a sleeve o't."
Whoever tries for the highest results cannot fail to reach a point
far in advance of that from which he started; and though the end
attained may fall short of that proposed, still, the very effort to
rise, of itself cannot fail to prove permanently beneficial.
There are many counterfeits of character, but the genuine
article is difficult to be mistaken. Some, knowing its money
value, would assume its disguise for the purpose of imposing upon
the unwary. Colonel Charteris said to a man distinguished for
his honesty, "I would give a thousand pounds for your good name."
"Why?" "Because I could make ten thousand by it," was the
knave's reply.
SIR ROBERT
PEEL (1788-1850):
twice Prime Minister of the United Kingdom.
Picture: Wikipedia.
Integrity in word and deed is the backbone of character; and
loyal adherence to veracity its most prominent characteristic.
One of the finest testimonies to the character of the late Sir
Robert Peel was that borne by the Duke of Wellington in the House of
Lords, a few days after the great statesman's death. "Your
lordships," he said, "must all feel the high and honourable
character of the late Sir Robert Peel. I was long connected
with him in public life. We were both in the councils of our
Sovereign together, and I had long the honour to enjoy his private
friendship. In all the course of my acquaintance with him I
never knew a man in whose truth and justice I had greater
confidence, or in whom I saw a more invariable desire to promote the
public service. In the whole course of my communication with
him, I never knew an instance in which he did not show the strongest
attachment to truth; and I never saw in the whole course of my life
the smallest reason for suspecting that he stated anything which he
did not firmly believe to be the fact." And this high-minded
truthfulness of the statesman was no doubt the secret of no small
part of his influence and power.
There is a truthfulness in action as well as in words, which
is essential to uprightness of character. A man must really be
what he seems or purposes to be. When an American gentleman
wrote to Granville Sharp, that from respect for his great virtues he
had named one of his sons after him, Sharp replied: "I must request
you to teach him a favourite maxim of the family whose name you have
given him—Always endeavour to be really what you would wish to
appear. This maxim, as my father informed me, was
carefully and humbly practised by his father, whose sincerity, as a
plain and honest man, thereby became the principal feature of his
character, both in public and private life." Every man who
respects himself, and values the respect of others, will carry out
the maxim in act—doing honestly what he proposes to do—putting the
highest character into his work, stamping nothing, but priding
himself upon his integrity and conscientiousness. Once
Cromwell said to Bernard,—a clever but somewhat unscrupulous lawyer,
"I understand that you have lately been vastly wary in your conduct;
do not be too confident of this; subtlety may deceive you, integrity
never will." Men whose acts are at direct variance with their
words, command no respect, and what they say has but little weight;
even truths, when uttered by them, seem to come blasted from their
lips.
The true character acts rightly, whether in secret or in the
sight of men. That boy was well trained who, when asked why he
did not pocket some pears, for nobody was there to see, replied,
"Yes, there was: I was there to see myself; and I don't intend ever
to see myself do a dishonest thing." This is a simple but not
inappropriate illustration of principle, or conscience, dominating
in the character, and exercising a noble protectorate over it; not
merely a passive influence, but an active power regulating the life.
Such a principle goes on moulding the character hourly and daily,
growing with a force that operates every moment. Without this
dominating influence, character has no protection, but is constantly
liable to fall away before temptation; and every such temptation
succumbed to, every act of meanness or dishonesty, however slight,
causes self-degradation. It matters not whether the act be
successful or not, discovered or concealed; the culprit is no longer
the same, but another person; and he is pursued by a secret
uneasiness, by self-reproach, or the workings of what we call
conscience, which is the inevitable doom of the guilty.
And here it may be observed how greatly the character may be
strengthened and supported by the cultivation of good habits.
Man, it has been said, is a bundle of habits, and habit is second
nature. Metastasio entertained so strong an opinion as to the
power of repetition in act and thought, that he said, "All is habit
in mankind, even virtue itself." Butler, in his 'Analogy,'
impresses the importance of careful self-discipline and firm
resistance to temptation, as tending to make virtue habitual, so
that at length it may become more easy to be good than to give way
to sin. "As habits belonging to the body," he says, "are
produced by external acts, so habits of the mind are produced by the
execution of inward practical purposes, i.e., carrying them into
act, or acting upon them—the principles of obedience, veracity,
justice, and charity." And again, Lord Brougham says, when
enforcing the immense importance of training and example in youth,
"I trust everything under God to habit, on which, in all ages, the
lawgiver, as well as the schoolmaster, has mainly placed his
reliance; habit, which makes everything easy, and casts the
difficulties upon the deviation from a wonted course." Thus,
make sobriety a habit, and intemperance will be hateful; make
prudence a habit, and reckless profligacy will become revolting to
every principle of conduct which regulates the life of the
individual. Hence the necessity for the greatest care and
watchfulness against the inroad of any evil habit; for the character
is always weakest at that point at which it has once given way; and
it is long before a principle restored can become so firm as one
that has never been moved. It is a fine remark of a Russian
writer, that "Habits are a necklace of pearls: untie the knot, and
the whole unthreads."
Wherever formed, habit acts involuntarily, and without
effort; and, it is only when you oppose it, that you find how
powerful it has become. What is done once and again, soon
gives facility and proneness. The habit at first may seem to
have no more strength than a spider's web; but, once formed, it
binds as with a chain of iron. The small events of life, taken
singly, may seem exceedingly unimportant, like snow that falls
silently, flake by flake; yet accumulated, these snow-flakes form
the avalanche.
Self-respect, self-help, application, industry, integrity—all
are of the nature of habits, not beliefs. Principles, in fact,
are but the names which we assign to habits; for the principles are
words, but the habits are the things themselves: benefactors or
tyrants, according as they are good or evil. It thus happens
that as we grow older, a portion of our free activity and
individuality becomes suspended in habit; our actions become of the
nature of fate; and we are bound by the chains which we have woven
around ourselves.
It is indeed scarcely possible to over-estimate the
importance of training the young to virtuous habits. In them
they are the easiest formed, and when formed they last for life;
like letters cut on the bark of a tree they grow and widen with age.
"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he
will not depart from it." The beginning holds within it the
end; the first start on the road of life determines the direction
and the destination of the journey; ce n'est quie le premier pas
qui coûte. "Remember," said Lord Collingwood to a young
man whom he loved, "before you are five-and-twenty you must
establish a character that will serve you all your life." As
habit strengthens with age, and character becomes formed, any
turning into a new path becomes more and more difficult.
Hence, it is often harder to unlearn than to learn; and for this
reason the Grecian flute-player was justified who charged double
fees to those pupils who had been taught by an inferior master.
To uproot an old habit is sometimes a more painful thing, and vastly
more difficult, than to wrench out a tooth. Try and reform a
habitually indolent, or improvident, or drunken person, and in a
large majority of cases you will fail. For the habit in each
case has wound itself in and through the life until it has become an
integral part of it, and cannot be uprooted. Hence, as Mr.
Lynch observes, "the wisest habit of all is the habit of care in the
formation of good habits."
Even happiness itself may become habitual. There is a
habit of looking at the bright side of things, and also of looking
at the dark side. Dr. Johnson has said that the habit of
looking at the best side of a thing is worth more to a man than a
thousand pounds a year. And we possess the power, to a great
extent, of so exercising the will as to direct the thoughts upon
objects calculated to yield happiness and improvement rather than
their opposites. In this way the habit of happy thought may be
made to spring up like any other habit. And to bring up men or
women with a genial nature of this sort, a good temper, and a happy
frame of mind, is perhaps of even more importance, in many cases,
than to perfect them in much knowledge and many accomplishments.
As daylight can be seen through very small holes, so little
things will illustrate a person's character. Indeed character
consists in little acts, well and honourably performed; daily life
being the quarry from which we build it up, and rough-hew the habits
which form it. One of the most marked tests of character is
the manner in which we conduct ourselves towards others. A
graceful behaviour towards superiors, inferiors, and equals, is a
constant source of pleasure. It pleases others because it
indicates respect for their personality; but it gives tenfold more
pleasure to ourselves. Every man may to a large extent be a
self-educator in good behaviour, as in everything else; he can be
civil and kind, if he will, though he have not a penny in his purse.
Gentleness in society is like the silent influence of light, which
gives colour to all nature; it is far more powerful than loudness or
force, and far more fruitful. It pushes its way quietly and
persistently, like the tiniest daffodil in spring, which raises the
clod and thrusts it aside by the simple persistency of growing.
Even a kind look will give pleasure and confer happiness.
In one of Robertson of Brighton's letters, he tells of a lady who
related to him "the delight, the tears of gratitude, which she had
witnessed in a poor girl to whom, in passing, I gave a kind look on
going out of church on Sunday. What a lesson! How
cheaply happiness can be given! What opportunities we miss of
doing an angel's work! I remember doing it, full of sad
feelings, passing on, and thinking no more about it; and it gave an
hour's sunshine to a human life, and lightened the load of life to a
human heart for a time!" [p.392]
Morals and manners, which give colour to life, are of much
greater importance than laws, which are but their manifestations.
The law touches us here and there, but manners are about us
everywhere, pervading society like the air we breathe. Good
manners, as we call them, are neither more nor less than good
behaviour; consisting of courtesy and kindness; benevolence being
the preponderating element in all kinds of mutually beneficial and
pleasant intercourse amongst human beings. "Civility," said
Lady Montague, "costs nothing and buys everything." The
cheapest of all things is kindness, its exercise requiring the least
possible trouble and self-sacrifice. "Win hearts," said
Burleigh to Queen Elizabeth, "and you have all men's hearts and
purses." If we would only let nature act kindly, free from
affectation and artifice, the results on social good humour and
happiness would be incalculable. The little courtesies which
form the small change of life, may separately appear of little
intrinsic value, but they acquire their importance from repetition
and accumulation. They are like the spare minutes, or the
groat a day, which proverbially produce such momentous results in
the course of a twelvemonth, or in a lifetime.
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JOHN
ABERNETHY
F.R.S. (1764-1831):
English surgeon; founder of Barts Medical School.
Picture: Wikipedia. |
Manners are the ornament of action; and there is a way of speaking a
kind word, or of doing a kind thing, which greatly enhances their
value. What seems to be done with a grudge, or as an act of
condescension, is scarcely accepted as a favour. Yet there are
men who pride themselves upon their gruffness; and though they may
possess virtue and capacity, their manner is often such as to render
them almost insupportable. It is difficult to like a man who,
though he may not pull your nose, habitually wounds your
self-respect, and takes a pride in saying disagreeable things to
you. There are others who are dreadfully condescending, and
cannot avoid seizing upon every small opportunity of making their
greatness felt. When Abernethy was canvassing for the office
of surgeon to St. Bartholomew Hospital, he called upon such a
person—a rich grocer, one of the governors. The great man
behind the counter seeing the great surgeon enter, immediately
assumed the grand air towards the supposed suppliant for his vote.
"I presume, Sir, you want my vote and interest at this momentous
epoch of your life." Abernethy, who hated humbugs, and felt
nettled at the tone, replied: "No, I don't: I want a pennyworth of
figs; come, look sharp and wrap them up; I want to be off!"
The cultivation of manner—though in excess it is foppish and
foolish—is highly necessary in a person who has occasion to
negotiate with others in matters of business. Affability and
good breeding may even be regarded as essential to the success of a
man in any eminent station and enlarged sphere of life; for the want
of it has not unfrequently been found in a great measure to
neutralise the results of much industry, integrity, and honesty of
character. There are, no doubt, a few strong tolerant minds
which can bear with defects and angularities of manner, and look
only to the more genuine qualities; but the world at large is not so
forbearant, and cannot help forming its judgments and likings mainly
according to outward conduct.
Another mode of displaying true politeness is consideration
for the opinions of others. It has been said of dogmatism,
that it is only puppyism come to its full growth; and certainly the
worst form this quality can assume, is that of opinionativeness and
arrogance. Let men agree to differ, and, when they do differ,
bear and forbear. Principles and opinions may be maintained
with perfect suavity, without coming to blows or uttering hard
words; and there are circumstances in which words are blows, and
inflict wounds far less easy to heal. As bearing upon this
point, we quote an instructive little parable spoken some time since
by an itinerant preacher of the Evangelical Alliance on the borders
of Wales:—"As I was going to the hills," said he, "early one misty
morning, I saw something moving on a mountain side, so strange
looking that I took it for a monster. When I came nearer to it
I found it was a man. When I came up to him I found he was my
brother."
The inbred politeness which springs from right-heartedness
and kindly feelings, is of no exclusive rank or station. The
mechanic who works at the bench may possess it, as well as the
clergyman or the peer. It is by no means a necessary condition
of labour that it should, in any respect, be either rough or coarse.
The politeness and refinement which distinguish all classes of the
people in many continental countries show that those qualities might
become ours too—as doubtless they will become with increased culture
and more general social intercourse—without sacrificing any of our
more genuine qualities as men. From the highest to the lowest,
the richest to the poorest, to no rank or condition in life has
nature denied her highest boon—the great heart. There never
yet existed a gentleman but was lord of a great heart. And
this may exhibit itself under the hodden grey of the peasant as well
as under the laced coat of the noble. Robert Burns was once
taken to task by a young Edinburgh blood, with whom he was walking
for recognising an honest farmer in the open street. "Why you
fantastic gomeral," exclaimed Burns, "it was not the great coat, the
scone bonnet, and the saunders-boot hose that I spoke to, but the
man that was in them; and the man, sir, for true worth, would
weigh down you and me, and ten more such, any day." There may
be a homeliness in externals, which may seem vulgar to those who
cannot discern the heart beneath; but, to the right-minded,
character will always have its clear insignia.
William and Charles Grant were the sons of a farmer in
Inverness-shire, whom a sudden flood stripped of everything, even to
the very soil which he tilled. The farmer and his sons, with
the world before them where to choose, made their way southward in
search of employment until they arrived in the neighbourhood of Bury
in Lancashire. From the crown of the hill near Walmesley they
surveyed the wide extent of country which lay before them, the river
Irwell making its circuitous course through the valley. They
were utter strangers in the neighbourhood, and knew not which way to
turn. To decide their course they put up a stick, and agreed
to pursue the direction in which it fell. Thus their decision was
made, and they journeyed on accordingly until they reached the
village of Ramsbotham, not far distant. They found employment
in a print-work, in which William served his apprenticeship; and
they commended themselves to their employers by their diligence,
sobriety, and strict integrity. They plodded on, rising from
one station to another, until at length the two men themselves
became employers, and after many long years of industry, enterprise,
and benevolence, they became rich, honoured, and respected by all
who knew them. Their cotton-mills and print-works gave
employment to a large population. Their well-directed
diligence made the valley teem with activity, joy, health, and
opulence. Out of their abundant wealth they gave liberally to
all worthy objects, erecting churches, founding schools and in all
ways promoting the well-being of the class of working-men from which
they had sprung. They afterwards erected, on the top of the
hill above Walmesley, a lofty tower in commemoration of the early
event in their history which had determined the place of their
settlement. The brothers Grant became widely celebrated for
their benevolence and their various goodness, and it is said that
Mr. Dickens had them in his mind's eye when delineating the
character of the brothers Cheeryble. One amongst many
anecdotes of a similar kind may be cited to show that the character
was by no means exaggerated. A Manchester warehouseman
published an exceedingly scurrilous pamphlet against the firm of
Grant Brothers, holding up the elder partner to ridicule as "Billy
Button." William was informed by some one of the nature of the
pamphlet, and his observation was that the man would live to repent
of it. "Oh!" said the libeller, when informed of the remark,
"he thinks that some time or other I shall be in his debt; but I
will take good care of that." It happens, however, that men in
business do not always foresee who shall be their creditor, and it
so turned out that the Grants' libeller became a bankrupt, and could
not complete his certificate and begin business again without
obtaining their signature. It seemed to him a hopeless case to
call upon that firm for any favour, but the pressing claims of his
family forced him to make the application. He appeared before
the man whom he had ridiculed as "Billy Button" accordingly.
He told his tale and produced his certificate. "You wrote a
pamphlet against us once?" said Mr. Grant. The supplicant
expected to see his document thrown into the fire; instead of which
Grant signed the name of the firm, and thus completed the necessary
certificate. "We make it a rule," said he, handing it back,
"never to refuse signing the certificate of an honest tradesman, and
we have never heard that you were anything else." The tears
started into the man's eyes. "Ah," continued Mr. Grant, "you
see my saying was true, that you would live to repent writing that
pamphlet. I did not mean it as a threat—I only meant that some
day you would know us better, and repent having tried to injure us."
"I do, I do, indeed, repent it." "Well, well, you know us now.
But how do you get on—what are you going to do?" The poor man
stated that he had friends who would assist him when his certificate
was obtained. "But how are you off in the mean time?"
The answer was, that, having given up every farthing to his
creditors, he had been compelled to stint his family in even the
common necessaries of life, that he might be enabled to pay for his
certificate. "My good fellow, this will never do; your wife
and family must not suffer in this way; be kind enough to take this
ten-pound note to your wife from me: there, there, now—don't cry, it
will be all well with you yet; keep up your spirits, set to work
like a man, and you will raise your head among the best of us yet."
The overpowered man endeavoured with choking utterance to express
his gratitude, but in vain; and putting his hand to his face, he
went out of the room sobbing like a child.
The True Gentleman is one whose nature has been fashioned
after the highest models. It is a grand old name, that of
Gentleman, and has been recognized as a rank and power in all stages
of society. "The Gentleman is always the Gentleman," said the
old French General to his regiment of Scottish gentry at Rousillon,
"and invariably proves himself such in need and in danger." To
possess this character is a dignity of itself, commanding the
instinctive homage of every generous mind, and those who will not
bow to titular rank, will yet do homage to the gentleman. His
qualities depend not upon fashion or manners; but upon moral
worth—not on personal possessions, but on personal qualities.
The psalmist briefly describes him as one "that walketh uprightly,
and worketh righteousness, and speaketh the truth in his heart."
The gentleman is eminently distinguished for his
self-respect. He values his character,—not so much of it only
as can be seen of others, but as he sees it himself; having regard
for the approval of his inward monitor. And, as he respects
himself, so, by the same law, does he respect others. Humanity
is sacred in his eyes: and thence proceed politeness and
forbearance, kindness and charity. It is related of Lord
Edward Fitzgerald that, while travelling in Canada, in company with
the Indians, he was shocked by the sight of a poor squaw trudging
along laden with her husband's trappings, while the chief himself
walked on unencumbered. Lord Edward at once relieved the squaw
of her pack by placing it upon his own shoulders,—a beautiful
instance of what the French call politesse de cœur—the inbred
politeness of the true gentleman.
The true gentleman has a keen sense of honour,—scrupulously
avoiding mean actions. His standard of probity in word and
action is high. He does not shuffle or prevaricate, dodge or
skulk; but is honest, upright, and straightforward. His law is
rectitude—action in right lines. When he says yes, it is a
law: and he dares to say the valiant no at the fitting season.
The gentleman will not be bribed; only the low-minded and
unprincipled will sell themselves to those who are interested in
buying them. When the upright Jonas Hanway officiated as
commissioner in the victualling department, he declined to receive a
present of any kind from a contractor; refusing thus to be biased in
the performance of his public duty. A fine trait of the same
kind is to be noted in the life of the Duke of Wellington.
Shortly after the battle of Assaye, one morning the Prime Minister
of the Court of Hyderabad waited upon him for the purpose of
privately ascertaining what territory and what advantages had been
reserved for his master in the treaty of peace between the Mahratta
princes and the Nizam. To obtain this information the minister
offered the general a very large sum—considerably above £100,000.
Looking at him quietly for a few seconds, Sir Arthur said, "It
appears, then, that you are capable of keeping a secret?"
"Yes, certainly," replied the minister. "Then so am I," said
the English general, smiling, and bowed the minister out. It
was to Wellington's great honour, that though uniformly successful
in India, and with the power of earning in such modes as this
enormous wealth, he did not add a farthing to his fortune, and
returned to England a comparatively poor man.
A similar sensitiveness and high-mindedness characterised his
noble relative, the Marquis of Wellesley, who, on one occasion,
positively refused a present of £100,000 proposed to be given him by
the Directors of the East India Company on the conquest of Mysore.
"It is not necessary," said he, "for me to allude to the
independence of my character, and the proper dignity attaching to my
office; other reasons besides these important considerations lead me
to decline this testimony, which is not suitable to me. I
think of nothing but our army. I should be much distressed
to curtail the share of those brave soldiers." And the
Marquis's resolution to refuse the present remained unalterable.
Sir Charles Napier exhibited the same noble self-denial in
the course of his Indian career. He rejected all the costly
gifts which barbaric princes were ready to lay at his feet, and said
with truth, 'Certainly I could have got £30,000 since my coming to
Scinde, but my hands do not want washing yet. Our dear
father's sword which I wore in both battles (Meanee and Hyderabad)
is unstained."
Riches and rank have no necessary connexion with genuine
gentlemanly qualities. The poor man may be a true
gentleman,—in spirit and in daily life. He may be honest,
truthful, upright, polite, temperate, courageous, self-respecting,
and self-helping,—that is, be a true gentleman. The poor man
with a rich spirit is in all ways superior to the rich man with a
poor spirit. To borrow St. Paul's words, the former is as
"having nothing, yet possessing all things," while the other, though
possessing all things, has nothing. The first hopes
everything, and fears nothing; the last hopes nothing, and fears
everything. Only the poor in spirit are really poor. He
who has lost all, but retains his courage, cheerfulness, hope,
virtue, and self-respect, is still rich. For such a man, the
world is, as it were, held in trust; his spirit dominating over its
grosser cares, he can still walk erect, a true gentleman.
Occasionally, the brave and gentle character may be found
under the humblest garb. Here is an old illustration, but a
fine one. Once on a time, when the Adige suddenly overflowed
its banks, the bridge of Verona was carried away, with the exception
of the centre arch, on which stood a house, whose inhabitants
supplicated help from the windows, while the foundations were
visibly giving way. "I will give a hundred French Louis," said
the Count Spolverini, who stood by, "to any person who will venture
to deliver these unfortunate people." A young peasant came
forth from the crowd, seized a boat, and pushed into the stream.
He gained the pier, received the whole family into the boat, and
made for the shore, where he landed them in safety. "Here is
your money, my brave young fellow," said the count. "No," was
the answer of the young man, "I do not sell my life; give the money
to this poor family, who have need of it." Here spoke the true
spirit of the gentleman, though he was but in the garb of a peasant.
Not less touching was the heroic conduct of a party of Deal
boatmen in rescuing the crew of a collier-brig in the Downs but a
short time ago. [p.400]
A sudden storm which set in from the north-east drove several ships
from their anchors, and it being low water, one of them struck the
ground at a considerable distance from the shore, when the sea made
a clean breach over her. There was not a vestige of hope for
the vessel, such was the fury of the wind and the violence of the
waves. There was nothing to tempt the boatmen on shore to risk
their lives in saving either ship or crew, for not a farthing of
salvage was to be looked for. But the daring intrepidity of
the Deal boatmen was not wanting at this critical moment. No
sooner had the brig grounded than Simon Pritchard, one of the many
persons assembled along the beach, threw off his coat and called
out, "Who will come with me and try to save that crew."
Instantly twenty men sprang forward, with "I will," "and I."
But seven only were wanted; and running down a galley punt into the
surf, they leaped in and dashed through the breakers, amidst the
cheers of those on shore. How the boat lived in such a sea
seemed a miracle; but in a few minutes, impelled by the strong arms
of these gallant men, she flew on and reached the stranded ship,
"catching her on the top of a wave"; and in less than a quarter of
an hour from the time the boat left the shore, the six men who
composed the crew of the collier were landed safe on Walmer Beach.
A nobler instance of indomitable courage and disinterested heroism
on the part of the Deal boatmen—brave though they are always known
to be—perhaps cannot be cited; and we have pleasure in here placing
it on record.
Mr. Turnbull, in his work on 'Austria,' relates an anecdote
of the late Emperor Francis, in illustration of the manner in which
the Government of that country has been indebted, for its hold upon
the people, to the personal qualities of its princes. "At the
time when the cholera was raging at Vienna, the emperor, with an
aide-de-camp, was strolling about the streets of the city and
suburbs, when a corpse was dragged past on a litter unaccompanied by
a single mourner. The unusual circumstance attracted his
attention, and he learnt, on inquiry, that the deceased was a poor
person who had died of cholera, and that the relatives had not
ventured on what was then considered the very dangerous office of
attending the body to the grave. 'Then,' said Francis, 'we
will supply their place, for none of my poor people should go to the
grave without that last mark of respect; and he followed the body to
the distant place of interment, and bare-headed, stood to see every
rite and observance respectfully performed."
Fine though this illustration may be of the qualities of the
gentleman, we can match it by another equally good, of two English
navvies in Paris, as related in a morning paper a few years ago.
"One day a hearse was observed ascending the steep Rue de Clichy on
its way to Montmartre, bearing a coffin of poplar wood with its cold
corpse. Not a soul followed—not even the living dog of the
dead man, if he had one. The day was rainy and dismal; passers
by lifted the hat as is usual when a funeral passes, and that was
all. At length it passed two English navvies, who found
themselves in Paris on their way from Spain. A right feeling
spoke from beneath their serge jackets. 'Poor wretch!' said
the one to the other, 'no one follows him; let us two follow!'
And the two took off their hats, and walked bare-headed after the
corpse of a stranger to the cemetery of Montmartre."
Above all, the gentleman is truthful. He feels that
truth is the "summit of being," and the soul of rectitude in human
affairs. Lord Chesterfield declared that Truth made the
success of a gentleman. The Duke of Wellington, writing to
Kellerman, on the subject of prisoners on parole, when opposed to
that general in the peninsula, told him that if there was one thing
on which an English officer prided himself more than another,
excepting his courage, it was his truthfulness. "When English
officers," said he, "have given their parole of honour not to
escape, be sure they will not break it. Believe me—trust to
their word; the word of an English officer is a surer guarantee than
the vigilance of sentinels."
True courage and gentleness go hand in hand. The brave
man is generous and forbearant, never unforgiving and cruel.
It was finely said of Sir John Franklin by his friend Parry, that
"he was a man who never turned his back upon a danger, yet of that
tenderness that he would not brush away a mosquito." A fine
trait of character—truly gentle, and worthy of the spirit of
Bayard—was displayed by a French officer in the cavalry combat of El
Bodon in Spain. He had raised his sword to strike Sir Felton
Harvey, but perceiving his antagonist had only one arm, he instantly
stopped, brought down his sword before Sir Felton in the usual
salute, and rode past. To this may be added a noble and gentle
deed of Ney during the same Peninsular War. Charles Napier was
taken prisoner at Corunna, desperately wounded; and his friends at
home did not know whether he was alive or dead. A special
messenger was sent out from England with a frigate to ascertain his
fate. Baron Clouet received the flag, and informed Ney of the
arrival. "Let the prisoner see his friends," said Ney, "and
tell them he is well, and well treated." Clouet lingered, and
Ney asked, smiling, "what more he wanted"? "He has an old
mother, a widow, and blind." "Has he? then let him go himself
and tell her he is alive." As the exchange of prisoners
between the countries was not then allowed, Ney knew that he risked
the displeasure of the Emperor by setting the young officer at
liberty; but Napoleon approved the generous act.
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SIR
HENRY HAVELOCK,
K.C.B. (1795-1857):
British general associated mainly with India
(see
Havelock's March). Picture: Wikipedia. |
Notwithstanding the wail which we occasionally hear for the chivalry
that is gone, our own age has witnessed deeds of bravery and
gentleness—of heroic self denial and manly tenderness—which are
unsurpassed in history. The events of the last few years have
shown that our countrymen are as yet an undegenerate race. On
the bleak plateau of Sebastopol, in the dripping perilous trenches
of that twelvemonth's leaguer, men of all classes proved themselves
worthy of the noble inheritance of character which their forefathers
have bequeathed to them. But it was in the hour of the great
trial in India that the qualities of our countrymen shone forth the
brightest. The march of Neill on Cawnpore, of Havelock on
Lucknow—officers and men alike urged on by the hope of rescuing the
women and the children—are events which the whole history of
chivalry cannot equal. Outram's conduct to Havelock, in
resigning to him, though his inferior officer, the honour of leading
the attack on Lucknow, was a trait worthy of Sydney, and alone
justifies the title which has been awarded to him of, "the Bayard of
India." The death of Henry Lawrence—that brave and gentle
spirit—his last words before dying, "Let there be no fuss about me;
let me be buried with the men,"—the anxious solicitude of Sir
Colin Campbell to rescue the beleaguered of Lucknow, and to conduct
his long train of women and children by night from thence to
Cawnpore, which he reached amidst the all but overpowering assault
of the enemy,—the care with which he led them across the perilous
bridge, never ceasing his charge over them until he had seen the
precious convoy safe on the road to Allahabad, and then upon the
Gwalior contingent like a thunderclap;—such things make us feel
proud of our countrymen and inspire the conviction that the best and
purest glow of chivalry is not dead, but vigorously lives among us
yet.
Even the common soldiers proved themselves gentlemen under
their trials. At Agra, where so many poor fellows had been
scorched and wounded in their encounter with the enemy, they were
brought into the fort, and tenderly nursed by the ladies; and the
rough, gallant fellows proved gentle as any children. During
the weeks that the ladies watched over their charge, never a word
was said by any soldier that could shock the ear of the gentlest.
And when all was over—when the mortally-wounded had died, and the
sick and maimed who survived were able to demonstrate their
gratitude—they invited their nurses and the chief people of Agra to
an entertainment in the beautiful gardens of the Taj, where, amidst
flowers and music, the rough veterans, all scarred and mutilated as
they were, stood up to thank their gentle countrywomen who had
clothed and fed them, and ministered to their wants during their
time of sore distress. In the hospitals at Scutari, too, many
wounded and sick blessed the kind English ladies who nursed them;
and nothing can be finer than the thought of the poor sufferers,
unable to rest through pain, blessing the shadow of Florence
Nightingale as it fell upon their pillow in the night watches.
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The sinking of H.M.S. Birkenhead:
February, 1852. [p.406]
Picture: Wikipedia. |
The wreck of the Birkenhead off the coast of Africa on the
27th of February, 1852, affords another memorable illustration of
the chivalrous spirit of common men acting in this nineteenth
century, of which any age might be proud. The vessel was
steaming along the African coast with 472 men and 166 women and
children on board. The men belonged to several regiments then
serving at the Cape, and consisted principally of recruits who had
been only a short time in the service. At two o'clock in the
morning, while all were asleep below, the ship struck with violence
upon a hidden rock which penetrated her bottom; and it was at once
felt that she must go down. The roll of the drums called the
soldiers to arms on the upper deck, and the men mustered as if on
parade. The word was passed to save the women and children;
and the helpless creatures were brought from below, mostly
undressed, and handed silently into the boats. When they had
all left the ship's side, the commander of the vessel thoughtlessly
called out, "All those that can swim, jump overboard and make for
the boats." But Captain Wright, of the 91st Highlanders, said,
"No! if you do that, the boats with the women must be swamped;" and
the brave men stood motionless. There was no boat remaining,
and no hope of safety; but not a heart quailed; no one flinched from
his duty in that trying moment. "There was not a murmur nor a
cry amongst them," said Captain Wright, a survivor, "until the
vessel made her final plunge." Down went the ship, and down
went the heroic band, firing a feu de joie as they sank
beneath the waves. Glory and honour to the gentle and the
brave! The examples of such men never die, but, like their
memories, are immortal. [p.406]
There are many tests by which a gentleman may be known; but
there is one that never fails—How does he exercise power over
those subordinate to him? How does he conduct himself towards
women and children? How does the officer treat his men, the
employer his servants, the master his pupils, and man in every
station those who are weaker than himself? The discretion,
forbearance, and kindliness, with which power in such cases is used,
may indeed be regarded as the crucial test of gentlemanly character.
When La Motte was one day passing through a crowd, he accidentally
trod upon the foot of a young fellow, who forthwith struck him on
the face: "Ah, sire, said La Motte, you will surely be sorry for
what you have done, when you know that I am blind." He
who bullies those who are not in a position to resist may be a snob,
but cannot be a gentleman. He who tyrannizes over the weak and
helpless may be a coward, but no true man. The tyrant, it has
been said, is but a slave turned inside out Strength, and the
consciousness of strength, in a right-hearted man, imparts a
nobleness to his character; but he will be most careful how he uses
it; for
"It is excellent
To have a giant's strength; but it is tyrannous
To use it like a giant." |
Gentleness is indeed the best test of gentlemanliness.
A consideration for the feelings of others, for his inferiors and
dependants as well as his equals, and respect for their
self-respect, will pervade the true gentleman's whole conduct.
He will rather himself suffer a small injury, than by an
uncharitable construction of another's behaviour, incur the risk of
committing a great wrong. He will be forbearant of the
weaknesses, the failings, and the errors, of those whose advantages
in life have not been equal to his own. He will be merciful
even to his beast. He will not boast of his wealth, or his
strength, or his gifts. He will not be puffed up by success,
or unduly depressed by failure. He will not obtrude his views
on others, but speak his mind freely when occasion calls for it.
He will not confer favours with a patronizing air. Sir Walter
Scott once said of Lord Lothian, "He is a man from whom one may
receive a favour, and that's saying a great deal in these days."
Lord Chatham has said that the gentleman is characterised by
his sacrifice of self and preference of others to himself in the
little daily occurrences of life. In illustration of this
ruling spirit of considerateness in a noble character, we may cite
the anecdote of the gallant Sir Ralph Abercromby, of whom it is
related, that when mortally wounded in the battle of Aboukir, he was
carried in a litter on board the 'Foudroyant;' and, to ease his
pain, a soldier's blanket was placed under his head, from which he
experienced considerable relief. He asked what it was.
"It's only a soldier's blanket," was the reply. "Whose blanket
is it?" said he, half lifting himself up. "Only one of the
men's." "I wish to know the name of the man whose blanket this
is." "It is Duncan Roy's, of the 42nd, Sir Ralph." "Then
see that Duncan Roy gets his blanket this very night." [p.408]
Even to ease his dying agony the general would not deprive the
private soldier of his blanket for one night. The incident is
as good in its way as that of the dying Sydney handing his cup of
water to the private soldier on the field of Zutphen.
The quaint old Fuller sums up in a few words the character of
the true gentleman and man of action in describing that of the great
admiral, Sir Francis Drake: "Chaste in his life, just in his
dealings, true of his word; merciful to those that were under him,
and hating nothing so much as idleness; in matters especially of
moment, he was never wont to rely on other men's care, how trusty or
skilful soever they might seem to be, but, always contemning danger,
and refusing no toyl, he was wont himself to be one (whoever was a
second) at every turn, where courage, skill, or industry was to be
employed."
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